Where is the love?

If you read my blogs you know that I recently went back school; and am loving it! In my running class I met a 25 year old single mother who is awesome. I really enjoy her company and can easily see myself gaining a friendship from this class.

Before class today we were talking, and the conversation led into us discussing how people look down on single mothers. I told her about some of my experiences with people saying very rude things to me about being a young mother; and she had very similar encounters as well. Then she said something that had never crossed my mind. She said, "where is some credit for at least making the choice to keep the baby, completely put myself aside, and doing the right thing?"

Then we stumbled upon another thought; the same people who stand outside and protest abortions and are avid pro-life supporters are the same people who tend to shun you or make these incredibly rude comments to you for being a single mother. I know this is a generalization, and not all abortion protesters are this way...but it truely made me think. You make the right decision to keep the baby, and then the very group that encourages this decision is the same group that shuns you.

Like I said, this is a generalization, and I know that a lot of these supporters are of the mind set of going the route of adoption. And yes, there are cases where I do believe an adoption is the best route for the childs well being. But there is nothing like a mother's love for her child; that instant feeling where you are so overwhelmed by the feelings inside you that you sob tears of joy. It is no wonder that sometimes a mother is just not able to hand her child over. I know I couldn't. I had considered the route of adoption when I found out I was pregnant. 19, unmarried, pregnant by a guy who was all wrong for me, and living life for myself. I sounded like a pretty good candidate for giving my baby up for adoption. But, the moment I felt her move inside me and the first time I saw her in my sonogram photos; I was in love. And there was no way I was going to be able to go through with it. And the last thing I was going to do was go through the process of lining up a family, knowing good and well I would not be handing her over to them. I could not devesate a family like that.

Anyway, I am not trying to ruffle feathers, it was just a really interesting thought. Where is the Godly love towards these single mothers once they have made the right decision to keep the child? Aren't we all supposed to have a heart like Christ?